I remember being a miniature version of myself in primary school at the age of about 6 or 7 and talking in the playground to a group of friends (and frenemies) about what we would be when we grew up. We were doing it in a boastful way and were trying to out-do each other with the list accomplishments that we would have achieved by the age of 20. So funny now that I think about it, how much life I thought I’d have lived by age 20. It seemed so far away and at that young age I couldn’t see past the next week let alone the next decade.
What I find strange about adults is that when you’re quite young, many of them allow you to believe in what you want in your future. They tell you that you can be anything that you want to be “when you grow up”, they celebrate the little wins with you and presume you must be a genius when your brain starts getting things right. But somehow, and I don’t know exactly when, but it flips on it’s head a little bit. Very quickly throughout teenage years, your own self-doubt is validated by adults who agree with you and say that maybe those dreams are a little too ambitious after all. We look up to adults, which means that we value their opinion, and assume they must be right! The truth is, sometimes they are, and sometimes they’re not.
Now that we’re adults, can we honestly say that everything we’ve said in our adult life has been the absolute truth and we’re 100% certain that we’re always right??? 👀 nope……. So bless these poor children of the world who rely on us!!
Don’t worry, you don’t need to start freaking out about everything you’ve ever said – you just need to be aware that literally nobody knows what they’re doing in life. When I realised this, I felt so much better!! Honestly, everyone is just giving it a go and hoping for the best. Think about it, how many times have you been at work and not known how to deal with something? You probably made an “educated guess” and it worked out. Or it didn’t work out. But whichever it was determined how you dealt with that same situation when you faced it again. This is life, it always has been and it always will be. Trial and error. Unfortunately too many of us are so scared to make an “error” that we don’t ever “trial”
What I’ve noticed is that the people who get the furthest in life are the people who make mistake after mistake after mistake! And every time they fall flat on their face, or have people say that they’ll never be successful, or push through even when they don’t want to, they develop the strength that they need to get them closer to their end goal.
Are you allowing yourself to make mistakes and accept challenges? If you’re not, take the time to really think about what it is that you want, you are more than capable of achieving it. Just start making mistakes 😊
Lots of love